Be it a busy housewife, daughter-in-law with professional career or a boss in the office – some individuals are adamant on doing everything themselves whether they can cope up or not. Some people enjoy doing this and feel indispensable. Some do not mind it and prefer it that way. There are many who are unhappy doing all the work themselves but do not like others to help them.
Why this mentality? There are three main reasons.
1. Perfectionist attitude and lack of resilience in the methods adopted by others. These individuals insist that everything must be done exactly in the same manner as they have been doing. They feel that others are incapable. In their opinion the end product must also be the same, not worse and not even better. They do not feel like trusting anybody.
2. Like certain animals, some humans are very particular about having their own territory. They resent any invasion. Classical example is a kind and helpful husband who volunteers to cook a dish. But as long as he is working and messing around in the kitchen, he will not allow his wife or anyone else to enter the kitchen. Shashi, perhaps belonged to this category.
3. Fear of success or being displaced, internally competitive attitude and desire to maintain the status of one upmanship do not permit such individuals to take help or co-operation from others and bruise their ego.
Persons belonging to any of the three categories enjoy indulging in self pity as they fail to recognize the benefits of mutual co-operation which can really allow them to enjoy.
|Name:||Dr Pragna Pai|
135, Prabhu Nivas,
Rd. 9A, Wadala, Mumbai, 4000031
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